As I look outside at the back yard, I realize that one of the only plants that grow without proper care are weeds, and they look awful. They are also hard to kill or get rid of for good. What are the weeds in an unhealthy marriage? A few of them are anger, resentment, and dishonesty. We must understand that all the good stuff in life is hard work. However, it should not be looked at as a job. Happiness is to be pursued. Healthy marriages are not the result of two perfect people or the abscess or conflicts or disagreements. Achieving a healthy marriage is a result of conflict resolution, not the absence of conflicts and disagreements; it’s the result of working daily on your marriage. We have to work on our relationship with God and work on spending time with our spouse and developing on our communication skills. Marriage is a daily recommitment to loving the other person in a way that makes each person feel loved. Expressing true love through actions that remind our spouse and ourselves that love is more than our presence and our word, it is a combination of both. Our actions build a lifetime of memories that fill our lives with love and beauty. Weeds do have a place and a purpose. However, our marriage is not that place. Self-centeredness, anger, and lack of forgiveness are the weeds of relationships.
Let’s grow gardens of love and fields of hope so that our life will genuinely produce an inviting aroma……
Read Chapter 85: Psalm 85:1-3King James Version (KJV)
85 Lord, thou hast been favorable unto thy land: thou hast brought back the captivity of Jacob.
2 Thou hast forgiven the iniquity of thy people, thou hast covered all their sin. Selah.
3 Thou hast taken away all thy wrath: thou hast turned thyself from the fierceness of thine anger