What is Your?
Many of us are living life through windows, screens, and drop off delivery. Did you ever think the world you knew would change forever in an instant? Today we welcome our new normal where 6' of personal space and a mask is our everyday routine. How can we maintain closeness and connect in relationships and still show our neighbors we care without making them feel threatened or uncomfortable? It's time to upgrade our Quarantine Quotient (QQ)! What is QQ? It's the skills and tools needed to cultivate and develop healthy relationships.
Unlike IQ, which we are born with, QQ can be taught and grown when practiced daily, like service, selflessness, empathy, and grace. Feeling skeptical and need some evidence, let's enter the home of Gil & Renée Beavers, who have shared more than 35 years as a couple combining marriage and dating.
Like many of you, their new reality is they are now working together from home also. Gil & Renée live by the principle of prioritizing alone time. Each begins the day with God, by reading the Bible, prayer, and singing worship songs; they believe whatever you make first is your priority. It’s ok to be different, night and day best describe Gil and Renée's personalities. While they appear to be polar opposites it's their values and character that binds them together.
With all this time together it is easy to focus on what we don't like, we must change our focus to what we love and value about one another while working on our growth areas. Grace is when the stronger lends their strength to the weak. We all need the strength of the other individuals in our life. Let's give grace generously. You will only find this couple competing to out serve one another. Men & women in healthy marriages understand competing with your spouse to win only causes the marriage to lose.
Yes, 35-24-7, (Years -Hours -Days), that is a lot of time together how do they do it?
Gil is a fantastic listener, and Renée is an exceptional communicator. Together they have served couples in marriage ministry for over 15 years. They are also the host of Rich Relationships Podcast with Gil & Renée and will launch their new anthology with 17 couples, and 3 subject experts, titled “Rich Relationships Our Marital Code to Oneness”, in October. All of their years together and working with couples they have discovered the essential elements of the QQ, which is empathy it is one of the keys to “Our Marital Code to Oneness”.
What is empathy? It is your pain in my heart; with all the uncertainty, death, and divorce in our present world what we are all in need of is empathy. Empathy is a great attribute to cultivate in our marriage toolbox. We should value it and look for opportunities to put it into action.
When our spouses feel we are making an effort to empathize with them, we communicate to them that we see and feel them and their pain; this is one of the key elements to “Our Marital Code to Oneness”. We must listen to understand, we must feel, we must hear the other person's story and try to see ourselves in their shoes. Together we can increase our QQ. The Rich Relationships project is more than a book, podcast, and app. It's a community where couples can go for support, gain new tools, and have healthy accountability. Gil & Renée have been introducing the world to healthy relationships as evidenced by interviews on CBS, NBC, TBN, WACT 57, and others. Renée has also been featured in Huffington Post, and LV, and Sheen, Magazine. Learn more about Rich Relationships at https://www.richrelationshipsus.com.